How To Stop Masturbating (Major Update 2)

Definition of Masturbation

Masturbation is unreal sexual intercourse engagaged in without a sexual partner.

Scientifically speaking, masturbation is physical, sexual self-stimulation involving physical and/or mental “pornography” (any partially and/or fully nude image or images) of anyone other than your spouse (wife or husband).

Human Male Biology

Apart from any kind of sexual experience, the male body expels a measure of stored “seed” periodically during urination. Sexual need in the male does not arise from excessive “seed.”

How To Prevent Masturbation

1. Contain (suppress) your sexual desire.
2. Do not use pornography.
3. Eliminate sexually stimulating experience, which varies from person to person and over time.
4. Minimize (reduce) sexually stimulating experience.
5. Pursue a spouse (wife or husband).

What God Does

1. There is a difference between guilt and blame. Guilt says you did wrong. Blame says you will be chastised and/or punished for doing wrong.
2. Masturbation is always wrong. You will always feel guilty sometime after the masturbation (unless you have desensitized your conscience regarding masturbation). Note that something can be wrong whether or not there is a biblical commandment against it.

Family Building Drive

God made human beings with the drive to build families.

What is God’s answer to my inability to stop masturbating?

Answer: What is God’s answer to my inability to stop masturbating?

If you have no brain injury or the like, God wants you to find a wife or husband.

In this regard, the Bible says in I Corinthians 7:2:

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication [lack of restraint of the sexual appetite, including masturbation], let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Masturbation

Masturbation is not one act. It is two acts performed at the same time. We call these acts “stations.” The stations are the:

  1. Action Station
  2. Experience Station

Action Station

This is simply the physical activity involved in masturbation. We have no commandment of God about it. However, the Bible teaches that spiritual leaders should sometimes give their judgment about whether something is right or wrong. Our judgment is that the action station of masturbation is so private that it should be left up to the individual’s judgment.

Experience Station

This is the experiential activity involved in masturbation; that is, the imagination and/or sight of pornographic content. Here, we have clear commandment of God:

One must not choose to engage in the experience station (imagination and/or sight of pornographic content).

We emphasize the word “choose” because there are unchosen processes that occur in human beings; for example, sexual dreams, which are never sins.