Answer: What is God’s answer to my inability to stop masturbating?
If you have no brain injury or the like, God wants you to find a wife or husband.
In this regard, the Bible says in I Corinthians 7:2:
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication [lack of restraint of the sexual appetite, including masturbation], let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
The Bible says nothing about masturbation. However, it does talk about something involved in masturbation – pornography and/or experience equivalent to pornography.
There are two forms of masturbation – electostive and alextostive. Electostive masturbation is a sin. Alextostive masturbation is not a sin.
Definition of Masturbation
Masturbation is physical, sexual self-stimulation involving physical and/or mental “pornography” (any partially and/or fully nude image or images) of anyone other than your spouse (wife or husband).
Human Male Biology
Apart from any kind of sexual experience, the male body expels a measure of stored “seed” periodically during urination. Sexual need in the male does not arise from excessive “seed.”
How To Prevent Masturbation
1. Contain (suppress) your sexual desire.
2. Do not use pornography.
3. Eliminate sexually stimulating experience, which varies from person to person and over time.
4. Minimize (reduce) sexually stimulating experience.
5. Pursue a spouse (wife or husband).
“Residual Masturbation”
Residual masturbation is masturbation that occurs while a person is seeking to prevent their masturbation (see “How To Prevent Masturbation” section above). God deals with this type of masturbation differently than other masturbation. See the remaining sections below for more information about residual masturbation.
What God Does
1. There is a difference between guilt and blame. Guilt says you did wrong. Blame says you will be chastised and/or punished for doing wrong.
2. Masturbation is always wrong. You will always feel guilty sometime after the masturbation (unless you have desensitized your conscience regarding masturbation).
3. Masturbation does not always bring blame. You will not always be chastised and/or punished for masturbation. If you are seeking to avoid masturbation and you masturbate, your masturbation (residual masturbation) will not bring blame. If you are seeking to avoid masturbation and you masturbate, you will not be chastised and/or punished for your masturbation (residual masturbation).
Why God Does Not Chastise Or Punish You For Your Residual Masturbation
Residual masturbation does not spring from choice, which can be implicit or explicit. It springs from a force or forces (psy-latitude forces, not psy-anarchy forces) at work in you. Without choice, implicit or explicit, there is no blame (blame results in chastisement and/or punishment), though there is still guilt. Note that the forces mentioned above can never make you do anything that, directly and/or indirectly, embarrasses and/or harms yourself and/or another person or persons.
Why God Allows Your Residual Masturbation
God made human beings with the drive to build families. Therefore, he does not fully suppress this drive. If he did, the human race would have to die out.
Masturbation is not one act. It is two acts performed at the same time. We call these acts “stations.” The stations are the:
Action Station
This is simply the physical activity involved in masturbation. We have no commandment of God about it. However, the Bible teaches that spiritual leaders should sometimes give their judgment about whether something is right or wrong. Our judgment is that the action station of masturbation is so private that it should be left up to the individual’s judgment.
Experience Station
This is the experiential activity involved in masturbation; that is, the imagination and/or sight of pornographic content. Here, we have clear commandment of God:
One must not choose to engage in the experience station (imagination and/or sight of pornographic content).
We emphasize the word “choose” because there are unchosen processes that occur in human beings; for example, sexual dreams, which are never sins.